Why would a man exclusively date me for 2 months but not ask me to be his girlfriend?
His best friend knows me. I am only concerned because it seems like he spends more time with his friends than me and it has been 2 months of exclusive dating and he treats me like a girlfriend yet has not mentioned me being his girlfriend. Could it be just because we aren't communicating about it or what?
It's a three tiered system now. Dating, dating exclusively, then boyfriend and girlfriend.
No the exclusivity is exclusivity now, wheras having the person being your partner would be perceived as being exclusive in the future. It's how people view things, it's not rules, there is no dating "law.
This makes no sense to me. If he included me in his life more or was more public about us, I would think so but a few people knowing about us and him staying busy with everything else and just fitting me wherever unless I bring it up is a little concerning.
I rarely double post on questions like this, but it seems like you're genuinely suffering and I think I may be able to shed some light on this by sharing a personal story. Don't hold this against me, I was a stupid teenager once, too.
I'm in the longest of LTRs. Back when we were teens I'd signed up for the reserves, and I'm walking around my kitchen table and I just kind of blurt out "We should get married before I ship, because it means I'll get more per month.
Now, to me, this was a non-issue. I knew I was going to marry this girl, and I was pretty sure that she was willing to go through with it. But to her, this was the death of a fantasy.
No falling roses, no bended knee, just me on a phone, a few days away from leaving for months, saying "Let's file some paper work to get some extra money baby!
The end results were the same. On that note, there was never any doubt. But I was being practical about it, while she was waiting for me to be romantic about it. So what it comes down to At least not with sticky notes on people's foreheads. We tend to keep a list in our head of what's what and go with that until Dating for 2 months but not exclusive situation changes. So if you want to know where you stand, then you can either keep guessing, or you can just ask him.
That idea always makes me nervous Do whatever works for you two! I wish you the best of luck and hope you both continue to help each other. Well when I casually say that I dont know how to define us, he simply says something like, I dont know how to define us either even though we have agreed to be exclusive.
I tried to say He got defensive and said, No we are more than that. Yet, he still refuses to define us even though I send out casual hints once and a while.
Its more like he is running scared even though he wants to hang on because he likes what we have going on. It sounds like you are doing the same thing as him! It sounds like he wants something serious.
Why don't you tell him what you want, and he will probably say he feels the same? How does he introduce you? Does he use any qualifiers, like "This is my girfriend kayce" or any sort of I don't want to say 'possessive' but I guess 'intimate' body language, like his hand in the small of your back?
It seems like you got over the big hurdle, being exclusive together. If that talk went well, this might just be a hangup of his rather than a problem. Maybe just drop it on Dating for 2 months but not exclusive, the next time you have a chance to introduce him socially, "This is Jimbob, my boyfriend" kind of thing. I don't think I ever formally asked someone if they would be my girlfriend since I was a teenager.
I've been with my current girlfriend for four years. I never once asked her to be my girlfriend.
It was just understood after a certain period of time had passed. Also, what does him asking you to be his girlfriend mean to you? Are you concerned about him seeing other people? If that's the case then you need to talk to him so you're both on the same page. Ok so why would he be like I dont get why we would be a hookup only but he would cuddle with me and talk to me Dating for 2 months but not exclusive emotional things all day long.
I dont like that stuff if it's just hooking up bc then my emotions get involved and it seems like his would too.
Let me be more clear around the intention of my original comment. The real question there is that you want to define a set of boundaries for the relationship and want to see if your partner agrees, which is fine. Basically, go talk to the person you're dating rather than the internet because he's the only one that can answer these questions for you. As far as im concerned, it's not unless it's clear we are in a committed relationship and we are an official, public couple.
Im just agreeing not to date or have sex with anyone else. I am a little insecure I guess because I still feel like im outside of his life in general other than the little dates and conversations we have and I think he is a catch. I think very young people tend to ask that question Dating for 2 months but not exclusive they see the label as shorthand for a set of Dating for 2 months but not exclusive they would like to attach to the relationship, such as exclusivity or a minimum amount of time they want to spend with their partner.
While that's a natural desire, the problem is that people have different opinions around what sort of boundaries the label implies. Teenagers and sometimes even adults won't have figured that out. Instead of having a natural series of honest discussions around what the relationship means to them as it progresses they will resort to the shorthand, and that's likely to cause a misunderstanding down the line.
It's hard to say for sure. If he acts super close with you but doesn't want you to hang with him and his friends, and doesn't want to call you his girlfriend, it could be because he's not sure yet whether you will be a social asset or detractor.
Hopefully he's not that superficial, but I know for sure that I have been like that - hesitant to call a girl my girlfriend because I wasn't sure she would "represent me well. You should definitely talk to him about it, but don't make any assumptions, and don't start off asking him if he is hiding you or if he is ashamed of you. Like you said, you will get your best answer if you just communicate, and ask him how he feels about your relationship and if that label is appropriate.
I wonder if it's because he is worried that labeling us will ruin things or hurt his social life outside of us? Im just worried because I usually wait for signals such as further feelings besides attraction and like expressed. Yeah, it's a situation that can be hard to read. It could get even harder if you try to address it out of insecurity, like with vague hints and trying to tease information out of him, because if he is evasive about it then he will only get more opaque.
I can't speak for every guy, but if the conversation is awkward to have, I'd rather it be openly awkward than hesitant and weird. Perhaps you could approach him in a self-assured manner, something like, "Hey, I feel confused about our relationship and was hoping we could talk about it.
I want to be your girlfriend but I feel like that's not what you want, is that true? But my feeling is, you shouldn't be approaching this as if you are pleading with him to grant you the title of GF. Rather, you are a valuable person and you need to know if your time and energy are worth investing in this relationship. He may have a legitimate reason for all this; if so he will talk about it and want you to understand where he's coming from.
That is the least you deserve.
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If he's not willing to engage in direct conversation about it, however, he likely doesn't see a future with you, regardless of how he acts when he's with you.
Any mature man will have this talk with you, and want to take responsibility for his actions. If he can't do that, I say red fucking flag. He just hasn't thought about it assuming it was implied through action and you haven't asked.
I havent asked because he hasnt given me signals besides keeping in touch all day and cuddling on top of sex. For many guys, the dating "test run" is about 2 months. However, the "test run" may continue if you aren't clear about the direction of the interaction.